Post by nucleusofswarm on Jan 12, 2019 1:16:30 GMT
As kids, everyone has impressions or ideas, be they from family or friends or just media and culture, about what being an adult must be like and when you become one. I'm curious how people on here felt then vs now, having grown and changed and gotten that first hand experience, about what being an adult actually is or means.
Ahh, it's a difficult question for me... I was one of those kids that told my guidance councilor point blank that people were just people, struggling with their own misgivings and anxieties. The preconceptions of adulthood were just as artificial a construction as those in childhood. It's a bracket used to externally (and vaguely) determine the stage of someone's personal growth (apparently that was very enlightened for my age?). We're always changing, we never stop, so I find it difficult to say anything definitive.
I'm honestly enjoying it a lot more than I did childhood presently. Much more than I expected. I'm enjoying the freedom of thought and movement, the knowledge to know that you can stand on your own and the wisdom that comes from that. I'm not a believer in the concept that maturation means misery. There's no power in that, no substance, and it breeds very unhappy people. Adulthood is all about finding your own value in life, not what other people tell you is valuable. No one knows better than you what makes you happy. We're also very fortunate that we live in a time where that misery isn't shirked as before, but actively scrutinised in an effort to overcome it. Adults have begun to learn how to articulate their feelings and it's done wonders for people's ease of mind, if not happiness.
That said, the kids over half my age now have been relentlessly impressive. Extremely bright, extremely talented, they've embraced the Information Age with their mum's tablet and all the questions you wanted to ask at that age, but couldn't find the answer for. We recently had children all over the country exercise their right to protest and march on a vital issue affecting the whole world. They're much more globally-minded than I would've expected and it's a really welcome surprise.
"Courage isn't a matter of not being frightened you know; It's being afraid and doing what you have to do anyway."
I used to live on a nature center in the suburbs of Philadelphia with my wife. It about 2004 when Hurricane Jeanne hit the area. It eventually knocked out the bridge leading to our house, but before that, it flooded the creek outside. The house didn't have a basement, and the water from the creek was up to our ankles on the first floor. The water wasn't terribly bad on its own, but what it brought with it was: An invasion of rats.
So we dutifully set the rat traps and disposed of the bodies each morning before breakfast. One morning, I heard a pitiful thrashing. I came downstairs to see what it was, and discovered that a rat had somehow blundered into the trap the wrong way. Instead of catching the bar behind the neck, it got it behind the tail. The poor thing was pitiful; its back legs were limp, but it was still trying to escape, dragging the trap around with its front legs.
So, when you're a kid, your vision of your adult life has a certain element of idealization about it. You're going to be an astronaut or a firefighter or whatever, and happy and healthy and successful at whatever you do. You never imagine that you'll have to say things like "I beat the rat to death with a broom handle, because it was the most humane thing to do."
Life in general gets worse the older you get, In my teens I was perpetually embarrassed about everything about me. In my twenty’s I had to take more responsabilys that I wanted, and lost me. In my thirty’s loved ones began to pass away far to often In my forty’s my health started to fail....... Now as fifty is tapping on my door, I find joy in the same things I did as a kid, and wished all the bits in between never happened and I could be 8 once again......
The other night, my wife and I came home from being at lunches with our friends (me with mine, her with hers) and we were full and bloated from eating and drinking so after a few hours of dithering we had a bag of chips and some ice cream for our evening meal. Nobody told us off or complained about our diet.
So yeah, sometimes it sucks, but sometimes it rocks!
"There's a horror movie named Alien? That's really offensive. No wonder everybody keeps invading you."
Well, since all adults in my childhood life always complained, I never had an overly rosy expectation. That said, even if it did not come as a surprise- adulthood is utterly exhausting and annoying. Many adult duties take much too much time and life's necessities cost much too much money. This became especially obvious for me (again) when moving places and starting a new job. I personally find this very stressful and feel exhausted, even if I seemingly have not done a lot all day.
Let us see if my outlook changes if my new job goes well, though...
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