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Post by coffeeaddict on May 8, 2019 1:17:29 GMT
I wasn't expecting to be home from work until well past ten. Due to a heavy day in the Senate, the Senators briefing I was supposed to be conducting was postponed - since notice wasn't passed on until the last possible minute, I still get to book the overtime.
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Post by barnabaslives on May 8, 2019 3:45:49 GMT
Not made my day: I don't even know where to start with what's not making my day. The short form, I guess, is that I've been taking a lot of verbal and psychological abuse from my ex-to-be the past several days (attorney papers reached them on Saturday and furious is an understatement) but I can't get anything done about it because I haven't been threatened with physical abuse yet, and that I might be able to call the police because the spouse is withholding vital papers like passport and birth certificate (that has been happening), but not if they are withholding marital funds that are supposed to remain available for routine expenses such as medical care, transportation, or legal aid, if I understand how things work in my state of the USA.
It's kind of a frightening thing when someone who has spent 20 years as a social services professional serving the elderly and disabled, decides to become abusive to a disabled partner. Someone like that may know exactly what they can and can't get away with and that might easily embolden and encourage them.
I stayed up all night to go to the courthouse and fill out paperwork for a restraining order against this sort of abuse because a domestic abuse hotline told me I could and should, and that I didn't need an attorney to do so. Got there and got halfway through filling out the forms and found out I'd need an attorney after all because I haven't been threatened with physical abuse which I've consistently been very clear about, after I'd just cancelled an attorney appointment about a restraining order thinking I was wasting his time by not filling out the forms myself because of this advice. It's sad, the person who told me I could do it myself had to be one of the nicest people I've talked to this year, but I don't know where they got the information. Around and around in circles...
This sort of stuff is just exhausting and exhausted is already about my usual state. Why do I even want to share such horrible stuff on such a cheerful forum? I guess the more people know about what is going on, even people I haven't met in real life, the more it makes me feel a tiny bit safer somehow? Yesterday I suffered two panic attacks in rapid succession inspired by someone who knows me well enough after 20 years together to know just how to push my buttons even through the infamous unrepaired sliding glass door and in spite of otherwise successful anxiety medication, just pounding on the door for 20 minutes. I think the only thing that saved me from another round only several hours later was that they happened to see me with a telephone in my hand when they returned and was likely thinking I might get a witness that way.
I considered recording the abuse, and was shocked to discover I'd need the abuser's permission to record them in my state, whereas I would not need it if had been a telephone conversation, which makes very little sense at all to me. At this point, though, I don't know if any agency would even be interested in such evidence if an attorney isn't, and there probably isn't a lot at stake here? I could have things all wrong, but I've been hearing the same things from almost every direction now, and I don't know how any of it is supposed to discourage abuse. I guess I can understand though, that if resources are limited, sadly only the most severe and dangerous types of abuse may be likely to be directly addressed?
Made my day: All sorts of things could still make my day if I felt quite up to having my day made. I don't want to let this nonsense drain the joy out of life, I'm just very very tired right now, and starting to feel every time I go to enjoy something like there was something I was supposed to do, or something I was supposed to fill out, or someone I was supposed to call, that I'd overlooked.
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Post by Deleted on May 8, 2019 6:27:36 GMT
Not made my day: I don't even know where to start with what's not making my day. The short form, I guess, is that I've been taking a lot of verbal and psychological abuse from my ex-to-be the past several days (attorney papers reached them on Saturday and furious is an understatement) but I can't get anything done about it because I haven't been threatened with physical abuse yet, and that I might be able to call the police because the spouse is withholding vital papers like passport and birth certificate (that has been happening), but not if they are withholding marital funds that are supposed to remain available for routine expenses such as medical care, transportation, or legal aid, if I understand how things work in my state of the USA. It's kind of a frightening thing when someone who has spent 20 years as a social services professional serving the elderly and disabled, decides to become abusive to a disabled partner. Someone like that may know exactly what they can and can't get away with and that might easily embolden and encourage them. I stayed up all night to go to the courthouse and fill out paperwork for a restraining order against this sort of abuse because a domestic abuse hotline told me I could and should, and that I didn't need an attorney to do so. Got there and got halfway through filling out the forms and found out I'd need an attorney after all because I haven't been threatened with physical abuse which I've consistently been very clear about, after I'd just cancelled an attorney appointment about a restraining order thinking I was wasting his time by not filling out the forms myself because of this advice. It's sad, the person who told me I could do it myself had to be one of the nicest people I've talked to this year, but I don't know where they got the information. Around and around in circles... This sort of stuff is just exhausting and exhausted is already about my usual state. Why do I even want to share such horrible stuff on such a cheerful forum? I guess the more people know about what is going on, even people I haven't met in real life, the more it makes me feel a tiny bit safer somehow? Yesterday I suffered two panic attacks in rapid succession inspired by someone who knows me well enough after 20 years together to know just how to push my buttons even through the infamous unrepaired sliding glass door and in spite of otherwise successful anxiety medication, just pounding on the door for 20 minutes. I think the only thing that saved me from another round only several hours later was that they happened to see me with a telephone in my hand when they returned and was likely thinking I might get a witness that way. I considered recording the abuse, and was shocked to discover I'd need the abuser's permission to record them in my state, whereas I would not need it if had been a telephone conversation, which makes very little sense at all to me. At this point, though, I don't know if any agency would even be interested in such evidence if an attorney isn't, and there probably isn't a lot at stake here? I could have things all wrong, but I've been hearing the same things from almost every direction now, and I don't know how any of it is supposed to discourage abuse. I guess I can understand though, that if resources are limited, sadly only the most severe and dangerous types of abuse may be likely to be directly addressed? Made my day: All sorts of things could still make my day if I felt quite up to having my day made. I don't want to let this nonsense drain the joy out of life, I'm just very very tired right now, and starting to feel every time I go to enjoy something like there was something I was supposed to do, or something I was supposed to fill out, or someone I was supposed to call, that I'd overlooked. My God this is a awful time your experiencing my friend, this is obviously causing you physical & emotional distress which is affecting your wellbeing, I'd take out that restraining order, i think your psychologist should help you more, your a patient & surely must have a duty of care for your wellbeing, nobody should have to endure psychological trauma which is obviously affecting your health, god forbid but what if you collapsed or had a heart attack or stroke because of this psychological trauma your experiencing what then? Do you have to endure more trauma upon your health before someone steps in & says your in need some support. Maybe keep a journal of when you make appointments or have make calls to remind you that way at least you can free your mind of that burden knowing you written it down & safe in a journal. Sending you big supportive hug from England, remember were here for you my friend.
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Post by Digi on May 8, 2019 10:33:02 GMT
Woke up to news today that finally, finally, there is a release date for a new Tool album
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Post by Digi on May 8, 2019 10:36:12 GMT
Not made my day: I don't even know where to start with what's not making my day. The short form, I guess, is that I've been taking a lot of verbal and psychological abuse from my ex-to-be the past several days (attorney papers reached them on Saturday and furious is an understatement) but I can't get anything done about it because I haven't been threatened with physical abuse yet, and that I might be able to call the police because the spouse is withholding vital papers like passport and birth certificate (that has been happening), but not if they are withholding marital funds that are supposed to remain available for routine expenses such as medical care, transportation, or legal aid, if I understand how things work in my state of the USA. It's kind of a frightening thing when someone who has spent 20 years as a social services professional serving the elderly and disabled, decides to become abusive to a disabled partner. Someone like that may know exactly what they can and can't get away with and that might easily embolden and encourage them. I stayed up all night to go to the courthouse and fill out paperwork for a restraining order against this sort of abuse because a domestic abuse hotline told me I could and should, and that I didn't need an attorney to do so. Got there and got halfway through filling out the forms and found out I'd need an attorney after all because I haven't been threatened with physical abuse which I've consistently been very clear about, after I'd just cancelled an attorney appointment about a restraining order thinking I was wasting his time by not filling out the forms myself because of this advice. It's sad, the person who told me I could do it myself had to be one of the nicest people I've talked to this year, but I don't know where they got the information. Around and around in circles... This sort of stuff is just exhausting and exhausted is already about my usual state. Why do I even want to share such horrible stuff on such a cheerful forum? I guess the more people know about what is going on, even people I haven't met in real life, the more it makes me feel a tiny bit safer somehow? Yesterday I suffered two panic attacks in rapid succession inspired by someone who knows me well enough after 20 years together to know just how to push my buttons even through the infamous unrepaired sliding glass door and in spite of otherwise successful anxiety medication, just pounding on the door for 20 minutes. I think the only thing that saved me from another round only several hours later was that they happened to see me with a telephone in my hand when they returned and was likely thinking I might get a witness that way. I considered recording the abuse, and was shocked to discover I'd need the abuser's permission to record them in my state, whereas I would not need it if had been a telephone conversation, which makes very little sense at all to me. At this point, though, I don't know if any agency would even be interested in such evidence if an attorney isn't, and there probably isn't a lot at stake here? I could have things all wrong, but I've been hearing the same things from almost every direction now, and I don't know how any of it is supposed to discourage abuse. I guess I can understand though, that if resources are limited, sadly only the most severe and dangerous types of abuse may be likely to be directly addressed? Made my day: All sorts of things could still make my day if I felt quite up to having my day made. I don't want to let this nonsense drain the joy out of life, I'm just very very tired right now, and starting to feel every time I go to enjoy something like there was something I was supposed to do, or something I was supposed to fill out, or someone I was supposed to call, that I'd overlooked. Ugh. I know you've posted about this before and I may well have said so before, but I'm so sorry to hear all that. Don't give a moment's thought to anybody here feeling awkward about reading it; if it's therapeutic to you, in some way makes you feel better to unload, all the power to you. You've got a whole lot of sympathetic ears here, just waiting to listen!
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Post by aussiedoctorwhofan on May 8, 2019 10:53:41 GMT
Woke up to news today that finally, finally, there is a release date for a new Tool album But did they confirm the year?
Yes it's big news in Australia LOL
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Post by tuigirl on May 8, 2019 17:24:19 GMT
Looks like I could get a day off in 4 weeks time to attend the biggest convention in Germany (FedCon). Two actors from the Orville are coming and since this is my favorite series at the moment, I really would like to go... sadly I wont be able to afford to attend all 4 days of the convention, but I hope I can at least make it to a couple. But is looking good right now. Yay, made my day.
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Post by Deleted on May 8, 2019 18:04:43 GMT
Still having problems with Landline sometimes can receive incoming calls, sometimes can't, broadband fine & make outgoing calls no problem.
Spoke Sky who want charge £65 callout fee if no fault found, well there's fault somewhere but hesitant to callout as i said sometimes we can receive calls.
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Post by Deleted on May 8, 2019 18:06:54 GMT
Bipolar is a bitch today, my moods off the chart as i battle my dark depressive moods, one minute I'm ok the next I'm angry, irritable or teary.
I sometimes wonder what i did so wrong to endure this emotionally crippling illness.
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Post by TinDogPodcast on May 8, 2019 19:02:06 GMT
Day 2 in new job!
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Post by TinDogPodcast on May 8, 2019 19:02:54 GMT
Bipolar is a bitch today, my moods off the chart as i battle my dark depressive moods, one minute I'm ok the next I'm angry, irritable or teary. I sometimes wonder what i did so wrong to endure this emotionally crippling illness. You did nothing
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Post by Digi on May 8, 2019 19:40:07 GMT
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Post by Star Platinum on May 8, 2019 20:45:58 GMT
For once, it seems like the american government is doing something right in trying to ban lootboxes in games.
I really hope this goes through.
This has definitely made my day.
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You know, now that you mention it, I actually do rather like Attack of the Cybermen ...
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Post by lidar2 on May 9, 2019 10:14:57 GMT
Sitting at my desk, new carpet being laid in the corridor outside. Carpet fitter playing music rather loudly and singing along, how is any one supposed to get any work done with that racket? not happy
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Post by aussiedoctorwhofan on May 9, 2019 11:03:03 GMT
I won 2 tickets for a concert next week.. A Swiss pagan/folk/celtic death metal band. Someone plays the hurdy gurdy too LOL! Should be a great night
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Post by tuigirl on May 9, 2019 20:08:09 GMT
And I got my day off and tickets for the convention! Woo-hoo!
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Post by barnabaslives on May 10, 2019 0:25:17 GMT
Not made my day: I am learning the meaning of "gaslighting" because my wife is teaching it to me the hard way often.
Made my day: A Bloodline episode that made my hair stand on end, that's only part of an amazing week for Big Finish fans and another stupendous week ahead!
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Post by melkur on May 10, 2019 10:11:26 GMT
I had a wet & windy Wednesday visiting The Globe for their production of 'Henry IV' (I went for a tour there at primary school, but can't say that I really remember it). Aside from some chittering American students around me for part 1 & some filmers in front of me at the start of part 2, I had a great time and certainly wouldn't mind seeing it again! I was originally thinking of going to one of their 'trilogy days' to see 'Henry V' as well, but I thought that would be overdoing it, so am thinking about booking in to see it next week instead.
Not so day making was my 11month old bag's strap breaking whilst I was wandering to the BFI between parts. In the pouring rain. =_= (Thankfully though, my father does seem to have fixed it for the moment with some superglue...)
Yesterday was quiet enough, Youtube, reading, a flying visit to the library to renew a book (which I'll be finishing today =_=) & my Network Scout group's AGM.
Today I got paid, which is obviously good, and the fact that I got an extra hundred pounds as a summer bonus? Doubly so! 'Have just pre-ordered next month's main range DW story and 'Gods Amongst Us' part 3 (still hmming and aaahing about getting the second 'Lives Of Captain Jack' box, but maybe one day?)
Tonight I'm in Guildford seeing a production of 'Equus' and 'Detective Pikachu' on it's opening day (don't look at me like that, I'm using the last of my Odeon points to get a freebie ticket!), but first, a bath!
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Post by aussiedoctorwhofan on May 10, 2019 12:44:42 GMT
Watching Captain America 1 on tv with my wife.. She is all about the "subtext" memes of all things Marvel.. she was calling out every scene which shows the real love story is between "Cap and Bucky" .. WOW.. it's all there in the movies..
Gold HAHAHAHA!
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Post by fingersmash on May 10, 2019 14:14:48 GMT
Watching Captain America 1 on tv with my wife.. She is all about the "subtext" memes of all things Marvel.. she was calling out every scene which shows the real love story is between "Cap and Bucky" .. WOW.. it's all there in the movies.. Gold HAHAHAHA! Broke: Steve is straight and loves Peggy Woke: Steve is gay and loves Bucky Bespoke: Steve is bi and loves them both.
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