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Post by Deleted on Apr 20, 2017 10:03:56 GMT
I don't look at it as chasing dreams. I look at it at achieving goals. I've always wanted to step out onto the surface of an alien world. Turns out that writing is a really good substitute. I don't look at it as chasing dreams. I look at it at achieving goals. I used to feel like that. You're sure you're okay? We're here to help in whatever way we're able if you need it.
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Post by muckypup on Apr 20, 2017 10:17:35 GMT
we should teach kids realism.......and not avarice and aspiration.
dreams are ok, but only after you have learnt to look after yourself and others.
we cannot all be pop stars, for everyone of them you need 1000,s doing everything else to keep the cogs moving.
learn to be happy first......but then that's much harder than a headful of dreams and others picking up the pieces.
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Post by nucleusofswarm on May 5, 2017 23:04:54 GMT
we should teach kids realism.......and not avarice and aspiration. dreams are ok, but only after you have learnt to look after yourself and others. we cannot all be pop stars, for everyone of them you need 1000,s doing everything else to keep the cogs moving. learn to be happy first......but then that's much harder than a headful of dreams and others picking up the pieces. I get the idea, but I don't think avarice and aspiration are really equatable. That's like saying greed and hope are the same thing.
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Post by omega on May 6, 2017 1:38:54 GMT
we should teach kids realism.......and not avarice and aspiration. dreams are ok, but only after you have learnt to look after yourself and others. we cannot all be pop stars, for everyone of them you need 1000,s doing everything else to keep the cogs moving. learn to be happy first......but then that's much harder than a headful of dreams and others picking up the pieces. I get the idea, but I don't think avarice and aspiration are really equatable. That's like saying greed and hope are the same thing. Avarice is desire at the expense of everything and everyone else (mine, mine, mine, MINE!), while aspiration is a more reasonable approach taking other people and responsibilities into consideration (I want to go to this place but in the meantime I've got a job to do).
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Post by muckypup on May 6, 2017 12:45:50 GMT
we should teach kids realism.......and not avarice and aspiration. dreams are ok, but only after you have learnt to look after yourself and others. we cannot all be pop stars, for everyone of them you need 1000,s doing everything else to keep the cogs moving. learn to be happy first......but then that's much harder than a headful of dreams and others picking up the pieces. I get the idea, but I don't think avarice and aspiration are really equatable. That's like saying greed and hope are the same thing. They are not meant to be the same thing..... kids are taught that they can be and have anything often unrealistically. take my cousins lad he has just turned 18 and studying (well turning up) at collage to be a teacher......now he is as thick as a brick failed both maths and English twice and arrogant as hell, but they still say he can be a teacher......ok.....but in his head that means he can be a head teacher why because you get more money and thinks he is that important. Forget the fact he struggles to use the computer above Facebook, and has no idea what's involved. i have no problem with encouraging but please be realistic.
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Post by pawntake on May 6, 2017 15:37:52 GMT
Even if your dreams fail, you’ll feel proud you gave it your all to accomplish them. Dreamers fail now and then, but they also learn more in life. You learn from failure. So, dust yourself off and try it again
But don't give up your day job!!!
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Post by nucleusofswarm on Aug 25, 2017 23:24:26 GMT
The nitty gritty is something I feel is especially problematic in the creative fields, as it's often portrayed as impossibly high, when in truth, it is achievable, you just have to be smart and play the long game.
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Post by barnabaslives on Aug 26, 2017 4:29:03 GMT
I think maybe it helps sometimes to have a clear as possible a definition of success - if for example you paint a beautiful painting but can't find a buyer, have you really failed, or did you successfully meet your goal of creating something? I also think maybe the bigger your dream, the more it might be important to remember you're probably part of a team effort - being a pop star or an Olympian might often involve a whole team of people, so are you really a failure in those endeavors if you've honestly done your part?
As I think others might have suggested, it might be good to have any smaller goals on your radar that you might find as rewarding as larger ones so that you might be happy with what you end up doing - happiness really wants to seem more important than wealth considering how many preposterously wealthy people don't really strike me as being all that happy. I've had some pretty lofty aspirations in my time, but I think it helped a great deal with perspective to remember that there were a few jobs a lot less glamorous that I could be happy with also (and they were probably quite a bit more realistic).
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Post by theotherjosh on Aug 29, 2017 15:49:03 GMT
Does anyone remember the song "Butterfly Kisses"? It was really popular near the end of the 90s. It got a lot of play at weddings. I had to listen to it a lot, because I worked in a bakery, and we'd listen to the top 40 as a compromise. I hated the country station, and the other people hated the station that I'd preferred. We'd catch the Top 40 Countdown on Sunday, and I remember Casey Kasem talking about the writer of the song, who had "followed his dream" for years and years, and his family had lived in poverty because of it. It's great to follow your dreams, 1.) but not if someone depending on you has to pay the price, and 2.) not if your dream is Butterfly Kisses. That song makes me throw up. And to give a more serious reply: As other people have said, perseverance is the most important trait. Factors so far out of your control that you may as well call them luck are going to play a huge factor, and you can have all the talent in the world and fail to succeed for any number of reasons. It can be extremely frustrating, having an idea that you know is brilliant, but being unable to get anyone to look at it. In the original post, nucleusofswarm talks about pain and grind, and I think that he used the exact right word. Making the art is the (relatively) easy part. Getting out there and trying to sell it (and yourself) to a disinterested world is the part that really wears people down.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 29, 2017 22:01:40 GMT
Obi-Wan Kenobi: Dreams pass in time.
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Post by TinDogPodcast on Aug 30, 2017 10:02:51 GMT
I don't look at it as chasing dreams. I look at it at achieving goals. I've always wanted to step out onto the surface of an alien world. Turns out that writing is a really good substitute. I used to feel like that. You're sure you're okay? We're here to help in whatever way we're able if you need it. Don't worry. I know when it's bad. And it's all ok... Back to the subject Surely the issue would lie in the actual nature of the dream... Write a book or 10... nice. Invade Poland. .. not nice.
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Post by omega on Aug 30, 2017 10:25:34 GMT
Having something you want to work towards is great, it gives you a goal, but it shouldn't negatively interfere with your life. You should also be able to recognise your limits and if you simply aren't capable of something, don't have an impossible dream. I'm not going to become a pilot because of my vision, and I'm not going in the medical sector because it makes me uncomfortable. You can't meet people who aren't with us anymore. However say I want to go somewhere. That's a tangible dream, with clear steps to reach it. Work out when, save enough money for getting there and what I'll do there.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 30, 2017 12:26:23 GMT
Mmm. That and to accept that the unexpected may happen as well. I'm still heading back to Japan in November even with North Korea chucking missiles at their most popular travel destination for winter sports.
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