|
Post by Tim Bradley on Jul 2, 2020 9:28:45 GMT
So sorry about your cousin, Timelord Simon. That's dreadful. My prayers and thoughts go out to your and your family during this difficult time. Tim.
|
|
|
Post by whiskeybrewer on Jul 2, 2020 9:52:07 GMT
Im so sorry Timelord. There just arent any words
|
|
shutupbanks
Castellan
There’s a horror movie called Alien? That’s really offensive. No wonder everyone keeps invading you.
Likes: 5,714
|
Post by shutupbanks on Jul 2, 2020 10:29:55 GMT
Sadly my cousin passed away yesterday finally succumbing to his brain tumour which he has battled over 4 years, he leaves behind a wife & 3 children 20, 16, 13. While not a shock as it was to be expected none of us could visit him, we skyped & texted but not the same. I just don't understand this world anymore, just feel angry & pis.ed off all the time. So very sorry for your loss and my condolences to his family. Such an awful thing to happen.
|
|
|
Post by number13 on Jul 2, 2020 12:55:38 GMT
Timelord, my deepest sympathy. We're thinking of you.
|
|
|
Post by elkawho on Jul 2, 2020 17:22:15 GMT
So very sorry @timelord007. What a horrible thing to happen in the midst of all of this. May his memory give you comfort. I think he knew how much he was loved and supported even if you couldn't be there with him.
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
Likes:
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2020 18:14:37 GMT
I'm sorry for your loss Timelord, especially in these terrible times. The lockdown and all the rules involved have made circumstances like your cousin's passing all the more distressing and you're right, it is simply unfair to the ones left behind that they couldn't say goodbye properly. Please pass my sympathies to your cousin's family. Thank you, i spoke to his mom today very emotional conversation, i have no words of comfort for her because there aren't any. Just feel i abandoned him couldn't visit him, i know he knew why but doesn't make me feel any better it really took it's toll on us & family, haven't had closure & i might not be able attend funeral as only allowed i think 6-8 at moment.
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
Likes:
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2020 18:15:34 GMT
Sadly my cousin passed away yesterday finally succumbing to his brain tumour which he has battled over 4 years, he leaves behind a wife & 3 children 20, 16, 13. While not a shock as it was to be expected none of us could visit him, we skyped & texted but not the same. I just don't understand this world anymore, just feel angry & pis.ed off all the time. So very sorry for your loss and my condolences to his family. Such an awful thing to happen. Yeah not great haven't had sense closure cause of lockdown.
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
Likes:
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2020 18:16:45 GMT
Timelord, my deepest sympathy. We're thinking of you. Thank you my friend, just trying process, made harder because couldn't visit him
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
Likes:
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 2, 2020 18:18:32 GMT
So very sorry @timelord007 . What a horrible thing to happen in the midst of all of this. May his memory give you comfort. I think he knew how much he was loved and supported even if you couldn't be there with him. Thank you so much for kind words, spoke to his mom today she heartbroken, feel useless can't find any words of comfort cause there aren't any. A parent should never have to bury there child.
|
|
|
Post by barnabaslives on Jul 2, 2020 20:03:32 GMT
Just feel i abandoned him couldn't visit him, i know he knew why but doesn't make me feel any better it really took it's toll on us & family, haven't had closure & i might not be able attend funeral as only allowed i think 6-8 at moment. Simon, I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. I don't even know what to say. My condolences to all of you. It's a pity things have been made even more tragic by circumstances but I'm sure you let no one down by trying to help keep people safe. What Wolfie said - we are here for you brother.
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
Likes:
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2020 7:04:48 GMT
Just feel i abandoned him couldn't visit him, i know he knew why but doesn't make me feel any better it really took it's toll on us & family, haven't had closure & i might not be able attend funeral as only allowed i think 6-8 at moment. Simon, I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. I don't even know what to say. My condolences to all of you. It's a pity things have been made even more tragic by circumstances but I'm sure you let no one down by trying to help keep people safe. What Wolfie said - we are here for you brother. Thank you, i lost people in my life but always had that sense of closure, i just don't feel had that because couldn't see him, feel things wanted say but didn't have chance too & of course i don't think i can attend the funeral because of the limited capacity of 6-8 people. Myother cousin was very close to him as same age grew up together & he's in a state not coping, i can't visit him to support him as i have support bubble with my other cousin. Strange times my friend.
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
Likes:
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2020 9:51:41 GMT
Simon, I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. I don't even know what to say. My condolences to all of you. It's a pity things have been made even more tragic by circumstances but I'm sure you let no one down by trying to help keep people safe. What Wolfie said - we are here for you brother. Thank you, i lost people in my life but always had that sense of closure, i just don't feel had that because couldn't see him, feel things wanted say but didn't have chance too & of course i don't think i can attend the funeral because of the limited capacity of 6-8 people. Myother cousin was very close to him as same age grew up together & he's in a state not coping, i can't visit him to support him as i have support bubble with my other cousin. Strange times my friend. I'm with you there. I had to make that decision for my friend's mother when she passed, I couldn't go to the funeral in person. What helped me, and what might help your other cousin, is a conversation over the phone. Not a video call, but just a normal chat. Something that allows for spontaneity. It's a good substitute when there are no other options.
|
|
melkur
Chancellery Guard
Likes: 3,972
|
Post by melkur on Jul 3, 2020 18:52:15 GMT
Always nice to hear that I'm a 'stupid c*nt'...
Thanks Mr chavvy teen yelling out of his friend's car window, I'll note that down. (Rolls eyes)
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
Likes:
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2020 18:55:22 GMT
Thank you, i lost people in my life but always had that sense of closure, i just don't feel had that because couldn't see him, feel things wanted say but didn't have chance too & of course i don't think i can attend the funeral because of the limited capacity of 6-8 people. Myother cousin was very close to him as same age grew up together & he's in a state not coping, i can't visit him to support him as i have support bubble with my other cousin. Strange times my friend. I'm with you there. I had to make that decision for my friend's mother when she passed, I couldn't go to the funeral in person. What helped me, and what might help your other cousin, is a conversation over the phone. Not a video call, but just a normal chat. Something that allows for spontaneity. It's a good substitute when there are no other options. I rang him up earlier he's in a bad way unfortunately took to getting drunk block it out, told him drink till doomsday won't change outcome, sorry sounds harsh but i struggle with my mental health every day but you have try find something keep you going & not take to the bottle cause if i did I'd be a alcoholic, it's hard & the loss devastating but he left behind a wife & 3 kids who'll need our support we can only help the living. He thinks I'm cold emotionless, i dunno maybe he got a point.
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
Likes:
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2020 18:56:56 GMT
So sorry about your cousin, Timelord Simon. That's dreadful. My prayers and thoughts go out to your and your family during this difficult time. Tim. Thank you my friend, i appreciate those kind words.
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
Likes:
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2020 18:59:39 GMT
Im so sorry Timelord. There just arent any words I'm trying best get through it, now my other cousin who he was closer too has lost plot drunk llast night & again tonight, i tried talking on phone but he said I'm cold emotionless so i hung up.
|
|
|
Post by whiskeybrewer on Jul 3, 2020 19:41:58 GMT
Im so sorry Timelord. There just arent any words I'm trying best get through it, now my other cousin who he was closer too has lost plot drunk llast night & again tonight, i tried talking on phone but he said I'm cold emotionless so i hung up. Its just hitting everyone so differently i bet
|
|
|
Post by doctorkernow on Jul 3, 2020 20:51:33 GMT
Hello again Timelord007.
So sorry to hear the sad news about your cousin. It is never easy losing someone, and I send my best wishes to you and all those affected by this. You are not cold or emotionless, people often hit out at times like this. As others have said, we here for you and appreciate your presence on this forum. As a fellow bipolar person, I know an event like this could effect your mood. Please take care and try to look after yourself. Brave heart Timelord you are in all our thoughts.
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
Likes:
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 4, 2020 2:05:55 GMT
I'm with you there. I had to make that decision for my friend's mother when she passed, I couldn't go to the funeral in person. What helped me, and what might help your other cousin, is a conversation over the phone. Not a video call, but just a normal chat. Something that allows for spontaneity. It's a good substitute when there are no other options. I rang him up earlier he's in a bad way unfortunately took to getting drunk block it out, told him drink till doomsday won't change outcome, sorry sounds harsh but i struggle with my mental health every day but you have try find something keep you going & not take to the bottle cause if i did I'd be a alcoholic, it's hard & the loss devastating but he left behind a wife & 3 kids who'll need our support we can only help the living. He thinks I'm cold emotionless, i dunno maybe he got a point. Oh, I think you're far from cold and emotionless, Timelord. There is your own grief, his grief, the grief of a wife and the grief of children. All of whom he cared about, all of whom are now hurting. He wouldn't want to see any of you destroy themselves for him. It was good of you to try, I think you said the right thing. I hope your cousin finds a way forward that will lift him up, rather than drag him down.
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
Likes:
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 4, 2020 6:06:58 GMT
Hello again Timelord007. So sorry to hear the sad news about your cousin. It is never easy losing someone, and I send my best wishes to you and all those affected by this. You are not cold or emotionless, people often hit out at times like this. As others have said, we here for you and appreciate your presence on this forum. As a fellow bipolar person, I know an event like this could effect your mood. Please take care and try to look after yourself. Brave heart Timelord you are in all our thoughts. Many thanks my friend, i appreciate those kind words & yeah it has affected my mood which is why I'm stepping back with my other cousin, he has a wife and daughter to support him through the grief, i need focus on my own wellbeing for a while.
|
|